How To Feel Confident

With today’s constant bombardment of perfectly styled celebrities, perfectly curated Instagram posts and perfectly planned Youtube videos, it’s easy to lose our sense of realism and start to think that all these things are real life. In reality, a lot of work goes into each curated picture, post, video and outfit where hours of work and planning is hidden. It’s difficult to not get wrapped up all the noise and compare our less than perfect lives to everything around us.

Heading into my 30’s in a few years, I’m starting to become increasingly worried for the upcoming generation of young girls and boys who are heavily influenced by advertisements or influencers who promote perfection. It has taken me years and years of struggling with my self esteem to finally get to the point where I am now, confident in my own skin, my personality and imperfections. It is through these imperfections where I find my uniqueness, something that others cannot replicate. I’m not going to lie and say I’ve always been confident. Looking back a few years back have made me realise how painstakingly insecure I was. Maybe it just came with age, experience, failures and accomplishments, but I have come to a point where I am unapologetically me, whether accepted or not. I hope to use my platform to influence and inspire others to embrace their unique beauty and traits and to be unapologetic of it. To empower others to find their inspiration, thoughtfulness and sense of pride in the simple everyday blessings. Below are some tips I keep in mind whenever I start to feel a little down about myself.

1. Remind yourself of the traits that make you unique

These traits can be physical or internal, but making a list of all the things you like about yourself is a start. This could be having your mom or dad’s nose, being a hardcore Archie comics collector or an amateur hip hop dancer. These are the talents and traits that are uniquely you.

2. Do something small to make yourself feel better

Whenever I’m felling down about myself, I try to do something to boost my confidence. This could be painting my nails, doing a face mask, or turning on a rerun episode of Friends while wearing PJ’s and enjoying a glass of wine. Do things that make you feel cozy and comfortable. It’s times like these that remind you about the things that make you happy and to forget everything else that is less important.

3. List your accomplishments and things you’re proud of

Reminding yourself of your accomplishments is a great way to boost your confidence. This could be reminding yourself of the award you won in middle school, of the time you helped out a stranger just because, or of how hard your worked to get an A in your course. This is a reminder to tell yourself that you have the potential and skill sets to accomplish anything you put your mind to.

4. Focus on your goals and aspirations

Another way I like to boost my confidence is to remind myself of my future goals and aspirations. It gives me something to look forward to and is a reminder for me to continue working hard towards my goals.


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